Don't Judge

 #Dontjudge 

Don't judge your unmarried friend.We don't know what she/ he is dealing with.

Don't judge your friends with no kids.We have no idea what they are going through.

Don't judge a friend if they are not in touch with you for a long time.Ask them what's the problem instead of assuming things.

Don't judge a friend when they they decide they never want kids.It's their decison in their life.Give opinions only when asked.

Don't judge a friend who adopts.Only God know what they have been through all along .

Don't judge a friend if he / she likes the same gender or opposite gender.Love is universal.

Don't judge a friend if he / she wants to change their gender.They are still your friend no matter what.Let them come out of the closet .

Don't judge a friend who can't speak English or any language for that matter well.Its just a language.

Don't judge a friend based on their parents occupation or education.All the parents in this world strived very hard for their kids .

Don't judge a friend when he / she goes through a failure.Instead of mocking them more assure them that this is not the end of the world.

Don't judge a friend going through heart breaks.They can easily go into depression talk to them.

Don't judge a friend who recently went through divorce.We are not in their shoes.

Don't judge a friend for remarrying someone after a failed marriage or after the death of a spouse....everyone needs to be loved in this world.

Don't judge a friend who starts small businesses.Support them ..if you can't buy things from them share their business with your social network.Help them reach out to people.

Don't judge a friend based on their caste or creed or family..We are all humans..

Don't judge a friend based on their job.Every work in this world is unique.Work is workship.Doesnt matter what job you do..do it with fulfillment.

Don't judge a friend based on the number of kids they have.Children's are blessings from God.

Don't judge a friend based on how thin / short/ dark / fair their kid is.Every kid is unique.The mother knows how to take care.No one asked for your free advice.

Don't judge a friend who wants to study in their late 50's or who wants to work in their late teens...everyone has different aspirations.

Don't judge a friend based on the activities they do..A girl can be very good in sports and a boy can be a very good bharathanatyam dancer.Same way a kid can be a boy and like pink and a girl can like blue.This doesn't make them any less masculine or feminine. Grow up..

Don't judge a friend if he / she is addicted to drugs or alcohol or any such habbits.If it truly matters help them come out of it.

Don't judge a friend if he / she is ill-tempered and arrogant. We don't know what made them change.Try to accept them.

Don't judge a friend if he/she likes someone in their old age or any age.Everyone needs someone in their life.

It can be anyone as long as it's a human.

If they love someone based on caste, religion ,wealth pls DO JUDGE THEM .😁

So much more to add on to this list ...

In the end pls don't judge anyone.We have so much on our plate ourselves please don't bother about how other's life is.

Don't judge and be kind always.The world needs more of it.Be the change ❤️

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Pavithra

108 Divya Desam 16th Oppliappan Kovil

 108 Divya Desam

16th 

Oppliappan

The moolavar perumal here is oppliappan and the moolavar thaayar here is Bhoomidevi nachiyar.Bhoomi Devi thayar appeared as a small child in Tulasivanam and was brought up by markandeya maharishi.Perumal pleaded for the hand of the thayar.Markandayar said she is too young for marriage and cannot even cook properly.The food she makes will not consist of salt.Perumal agreed to consume food without salt and married her.Hence, the name oppu illa appan "oppliappan"."Mam ekam saranam vraja" is seen on the right hand of perumal.Iy means I am the only refuge.🙏

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Loss 💔

A loss will always be a loss no matter what...It can be anything or anyone.It can be your loved ones,A pet, A vehicle ,A job , Your passion..it can be anything...Once a loss is always a loss..Few such losses can never be reversed...No,the person can't be consoled..it's not that easy...all that we can do is..be there for them..Few words like " It's ok we are there for you " ....can be comforting and healing...One such loss is a mother's loss...The most unimaginable one.Be it 01 or 90 we all need our moms...Be at any stage she is the one we have...A mom is always a MOM...No, she can't be replaced by anyone else....Have you ever noticed one thing be it your mother or mother in law they never live there lives for themselves...they always think about the family....they always worry about us...they don't have time to think about themselves....they adjust and eat whatever is available...even if they are not  well they tend to cook because they don't want their children to eat outside....they call us 10-15 times a days to enquire about us....they may like to have the last piece of food that is left out but once someone asks if there is more...they sacrifice even that for us...all this for What ?  A shout out to all mom's and mom to be ....Take care of yourselves.Eat healthy food..Go out with your friends
.It's not so late to follow your passion...Read a book..Watch your favourite serials or movies......be hale and healthy...Do what you like... Because you Deserve it the most ... :) only when you are good we can be good...

Let People Live

Atleast this year let's not judge people and not poke our nose's into other  people's  lives.Lets not ask a jobless guy Why he is unemployed? Let's not ask any single guy/girl why their marriage gets delayed...Let's not ask any married guy why doesn't he own any property ( unless and until you are willing to invest in it ) Let's not ask any married lady why she is not pregnant...Let's not ask any Single parent why they didn't consider Re-marriage...Let's not mock any Overweight or Underweight persons ...Let's not ask any mothers why they don't consider another baby...Let's not ask a mother how to raise her kid...Let's not compare children...and we have more of "Let's not" to add on to this list...

Let us just let people live....it's nobody's business to question anyone....if people are more concerned about the society...plant a tree ...do some social work...adopt a pet...DO SOMETHING FOR THE SOCIETY...and just let people live for God's sake...

108 Divya Desam 15th Thiru Kandiyur

108 Divya Desam
15th Thiru Kandiyur

The Moolavar here is haran or Aran Saapa  Vimochana Perumal.The Moolavar Thaayar here is Kamalavalli Nachiyar.Shiva and Brahma both had 5 heads. Once after meditation, Parvathi offered Padya to Brahma by mistake. Shiva was envious of Brahma and plucked his head. This head stuck
to Shiva's hand. He then worshipped Perumal at Anbil on his way
to Thiru Kandiyur via Uthamar Koil. Shiva waited for the Perumal
at Kamala Pushkarani and surrendered to Him. Perumal then hit
the earth with His mace. A Pushkarani was created. When Shiva
bathed in this tank the scull fell away. Since the scull flew away
this is called Kapala Pushkarani. (A different version is that the
Perumal pinched Himself and removed a small portion of His own
flesh and gave that as alms to Shiva. Once this piece of flesh fell
into the scull, the scull broke into pieces and Shiva was cured of
His curse. (Refer Periyazhwar Thirumozhi 1-9-9).Sudarshana is
seen in a walking pose. Perumal  is seen here with Sridevi and Bhoodevi.

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To Triplicane with Love

I had to move to triplicane post marriage I was sceptical at first.It was crowded , dam c crowded.So many faces ....later on I loved seeing faces...wherever you go from the flower lady to the idiyapam selling anna...they greet you with a warm smile and you smile back...be it any festival...everyone makes sure they visit the periya theru pillayar first...from Krishna jayanti to ramzan ,moharam people celebrate all the festivals with utmost joy and happiness...we exchange sweets and savories....For foodies like me you have a hotel in every corner ...not to mention the famous Basha halwa ....most of the shops here are very small due to the lack of space but they have everything inside it and that's the beauty of it...from mosque's to  temples... everything carries its own beauty...the moment I saw my Lord parthasarathy I fell in love that very moment....be it any time night 12 or morning 4 you can see people on the road.....one can only experience the joy of  triplicane if you live here.... My morning walks are so special that I find happiness in little things...from ladies putting kolam in street,that wet sand smell, news papers, early morning tea kadai anna's with pattai in their forehand,mami's with manjal in their feet,seeking the blessings from thiruvestiswaran .. you know your day is going to be good...every aadi masam I make sure I go visit an ambal temple every Friday...this time I visited one such temple called the ellai Amman kovil in triplicane...I have never seen an beautiful goddess like her in my life...that day I made her a promise...no matter where I go when I am back I will def come visit her...for temple loving people like me....triplicane is a Bliss....all the areas in Chennai has its own benefits...but this one is coming out of my own experience...it's one such area in chennai where religion is just a word in dictionary...people love you for what you are....and those are the kind of people I easily get along with ...it's just been a year since I moved here...but I feel I belong here already...💕💕 #lovefortriplicane....

PS I might have missed out many places... I might mention them in a diff post...

108 Divya Desam
14th Thirukkudandai


The Moolavar here is Aravumudan and the Thaayar Moolavar is Komalavalli.
One day, the priests were astonished to see Perumal in wet dhoti and with Prachinaavitharn. A bhakta
died inside the temple and a stranger had performed the rites only the previous day In remembrance of this, on Aypessai
Amavasya, (Deepavali) this episode is recreated. Perumal  married Padmavati in Tirupati. Lakshmi heard of this from
Narada and was angry. Perumal came from Thirupathi and hid as
Padala Srinivasan to escape the wrath of Lakshmi. . Lakshmi
then decided to perform penance to gain the Perumal's attention.
Accordingly She was born on a lotus flower in the Potramara
Tank. She was brought up by Hema Maharishi (Bright
Maharishi) Perumal came in His chariot to marry Her, and
stayed here.In the Sannadhi, Sridevi, Bhoodevi are see
Besides, from the navel of the Perumal, on a lotus, Brahma
seated. Sapta Rishis, Vedas, and the sacred rivers pray to the
Perumal in the Sanctum Sanctorum. When Thirumazhisai
Azhwar came to the Sannadhi, Perumal got up to welcome him
The Azhwar requested Him not to. The Perumal is seen in
Uttanasana pose. Due to this, The Perumal is called
Aravamudan Azhwar and the Azhwar Thirumazhisaipiran.

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